Archives For Personality

 

A Charming, Clear, Deeply Wise Guide 
 
A Feature Review of 
 

The Path Between Us:
An Enneagram Journey
to Healthy Relationships
Suzanne Stabile

Hardback: IVP Books, 2018
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Reviewed by MaryAnn McKibben Dana
 
 
It’s a common occurrence in our house—over breakfast, my husband Robert will say, “Well, this morning’s EnneaThought email was another head-scratcher.” Many Enneagram aficionados will know what I’m talking about: the Enneagram Institute sends a daily email, as short as a fortune cookie, and you can sign up based on one of the nine Enneagram personality types.

Some of these emails are so perceptive that they land with a convicting blow, which has made them the topic of much kvetching among friends. (Many of us have wished they were sent at some benign hour in the middle of the day, rather than wake up to them first thing in the morning.) Other EnneaThoughts are impenetrable, with references to divine essence and holy wisdom. It is these that my husband finds eye-rollingly puzzling.

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Getting to Know Ourselves Better
 
A Review of 

Reading People: How Seeing the World through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything
Anne Bogel

Paperback: Baker Books, 2017
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Reviewed by Sara Sterley

 

I have been a junkie for personality types since I first took a Myers-Briggs assessment, probably at some point in high school. I loved the idea of many of my personality traits – as well as those of my close friends and family – falling into consistent patterns that I could study and learn from. So when I heard about Anne Bogel’s first book, Reading People: How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything, I was excited about how Bogel (also known as Modern Mrs. Darcy, the much-loved book and lifestyle blog, or MMD, as I affectionately call her) would tackle this subject.

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A Brief Review of

 

Introverts in the Church:
Finding Our Place in an Extroverted Culture.
Adam McHugh.

Paperback: IVP Books, 2009.
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Reviewed by Chris Smith.

 

Adam McHugh has tackled a little considered question in his new book Introverts in the Church: how can introverts exist in church cultures where they are often marginalized?  As an introvert myself, albeit one feels a deep need to live life in community, I was intrigued by the idea of McHugh’s book.    Introverts in the Church is a powerful reminder of the diversity of personalities with which God has gifted us.  McHugh, an introvert himself, longs for the healing of introverts from the scars of being marginalized in church cultures that tend to favor extroverts.  One of the book’s finest chapters is McHugh’s examination of how the church tends toward extroversion, and even in some cases Christian thinkers have painted introversion as a sin (One that he quotes says: “The extrovert God of John 3:16 does not beget an introvert people.  There is a terrible tendency to make the gospel serve us, to use it as a protection against the realities of life as though Christ died to preserve the status quo” 29).  McHugh – although he clearly recognizes community as a “given” – is frank about his own struggles with community, struggles that I imagine many of us introverts have faced.   He offers much valuable advice grounded in his own experiences about how introverts can become more connected in their church communities, and also names specific areas that will be of challenge to introverts. The latter half of the book focuses on introverts in church leadership and McHugh makes a strong case that introverts offer a balanced perspective on faithfulness in the way of Jesus that is needed in many church communities.  This is an excellent book that is destined to be the primary work on introversion in the church for many years to come.  McHugh concludes this book with this well-crafted piece of wisdom that should be taken to heart by all in the church, and especially those of us who are introverts:

 

In order to find our place in the church we must make two movements.  We go into the desert, into the depths and riches of solitude, to listen for the whispers of God who created us as introverts and to discover the gifts we have been given.  Through Christ we die to false identities and put away inauthentic behaviors.  We honor the rhythms and practice the disciplines that give us life, energy and joy.  …   The inward movement is not the end of the journey, though we will come back to it again and again.  The other movement is toward others, toward community.  We are not ultimately called to a life of self-fulfillment and comfort but to a life of love.  We seek to love God and our neighbor as ourselves, knowing that genuine love comes out of who we are in Christ.  We are to pass on the gifts we have been given.  Sometimes we will use our words and other times we will model prayerful silence, reflective rest and compassionate listening.  As we make this movement into community, we will find that it’s not merely about us finding a place for ourselves, but it’s about God showing us where we belong and the gifts we are to others.